In January 2017 Mrs. A was admitted to hospital as a result of a nasty fall. When she was discharged, the hospital told her family and her, that Mrs. A should go to a supervised care home.
Even though Mrs. A has dementia, she (with the help of her husband) had been very independent before the fall. She had led an active life, having been born and brought up in London and then joined the armed forces.
She was a fully qualified nurse and served in the Middle East for many years. It was during her time there that she met her husband and they have been married for over 50 years.
The couple retired to a peaceful area in North Wales. They have lived in this house for many years with only each other for company.
Mrs. A was unhappy in the care home. Mr. A was unhappy that Mrs. A was unhappy. Both of them were unhappy about being separated after more than 50 years of marriage.
Mr. A contacted Christies Care, hoping that with a live-in carer, his wife could come home. He said ‘my wife cannot continue to live in the care home, she is not herself. She is separated from her family, her familiar surroundings and me. She has dementia’.
I met Mrs. A and her husband and got to understand her condition, the family’s frustration with the situation, and their very obvious distress.
We were able to work out a solution, to find the right carer for Mrs. A, so that she could come home.
After the care had been set up, and the initial visits, I didn’t see Mrs. A for three months.
When I did see her in March, I was shocked by the difference. Mrs. A was completely different to the person I’d seen when she’d been incarcerated in the care home.
There, she had been obviously unhappy, distressed and lonely. Now she was smiling, laughing and chatting, sitting with her husband of 50 years plus, in their own home, happy.
That is why I love my job.