Me and my Gran: A Local Area Advisor shares

2018-02-06T14:02:55+00:00 January 16th, 2018|Categories: Live-in Care, Live-in Care Jobs UK|Tags: , , , |1 Comment
BRYAN ELLISON
BRYAN ELLISONLocal Area Advisor, Christies Care
I have worked for Christies Care since 2003, firstly as a care worker and now as a local area advisor.

I used to get asked a lot by my friends why I work in the care industry and my answer was, and still is, that I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that I have made a difference to someone’s life.

I looked after my gran for the last few years of her life.

She had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and experienced quite a lot of confusion. One example of this was when I went out to the shop. I got back and my Gran said that she had just eaten a lovely ham sandwich. I was really quite confused about this, because there was no ham in the house. After a good bit of digging around, I discovered that Gran had opened a tin of dog food and had made a sandwich out of that!

I didn’t know anything about dementia at this stage, and had never seen confusion to this extent. To me, it was just my Gran getting old and a bit muddled but still, it was very upsetting for me to see her getting like this.

She also fell out of bed a lot. But she wouldn’t ask for my help, because she “didn’t want to be a nuisance.” This always got my back up because she was suffering and I was there to help if only she’d ask for it. Things went on like this for some time.

It wasn’t until I needed a break and got some respite care that I realised my Gran’s condition had affected me almost more than her. And then the respite carers came up with so many ideas to improve my gran’s standard of living that I noticed a change in her on my return.

I had also never even thought about how it must have felt for my gran, with me performing personal care on her. To me it was just something that needed to be done but to her I was her grandson and she didn’t think her grandson should have to help her in these sort of ways.

Having a carer in place made me think about me being a grandson again and made me think about my Gran as my Gran, rather than someone I was looking after.

It changed my life.

I see just this kind of thing with my clients. They have muddled along in their own way, and have just reached the stage when they need help. And once the care has started, you can see that the family can go back to being family, not carers. It is great to see!

One Comment

  1. Stephanie January 22, 2018 at 2:05 pm

    I can completely relate to this. Caring for my father during his terminal illness felt like my duty and something I was happy to do for a man that has done so much for me throughout my life, but I didn’t understand the effect this was having on him. Looking back now, and also looking forward, to the possible care needs of other members of my family, I wonder why it is, that we prepare for so many things in our lives – retirement, children, marriage, grandchildren – but we never think ahead to the times when either we as individuals, or our family members may need care? It really is worth thinking about our wishes and hopes for the future and talking about and planning such time to make sure that our loved ones know what we want.

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